Raising a man in a world that doesn't need them

My Maverick started school a few weeks ago and, just like we expected, he rocked it and mom did not.

I am not sure what fear overcame my body as I watched him walk off into his big boy school. I thought it was the fear of school itself - will he be liked, will he find friends, will his teachers understand his "maverickness". Then I thought maybe it was just that whole mom thing we do when our babies are not so much babies anymore.

But, as the few weeks have passed I realized that my fears were really none of the above and went much much deeper. The culture has changed. Truth is irrelevant and doesn't depend on facts only feelings. Feminism has taken over, women are waging war on women, men are told they are irrelevant and our little boys are suffering.

I am a pretty traditional Christian young mom trying to navigate raising two boys in a world that tells men we don't need them - that's what scares me.

There are so many lies that are being thrown around as truth it's so hard to shift through all that crap to find the truth and I don't mean your truth or what you feel I mean the actual truth.

Here are a few of those lies;

Girls rule and Boys drool

Although there may be some truth to that statement, in reality, we both rule and we both drool. Girl power is plastered everyone and there is absolutely nothing wrong with loving and owning how God made you. However, it does become wrong when we start raising one gender higher than the other. Can you imagine a little boy wearing a shirt that said "Boy Power"? I imagine I would get a call from the school asking to change his clothes because it's offensive. Why do we teach our little girls that they are strong and independent and have "girl power" but tell boys they don't or can't?

Anything men can do, women can do better

Again, probably some truth to that statement but there is whole lotta stuff my husband can do wayyyyyyy better than me. Not because He is a man or it's his "role" but because he is better in those areas than me. Period. Women are no longer trying to prove that they are as good as men (which we are equally valued and loved) they are trying to prove they are better.

Men are superfluous

Ever watch TV or movies? Think of all those sitcoms that you love with a husband and wife and a few kids. There is a constant stream of media being poured into our homes showing us women autonomy and male incompetence. Women don't need men for anything - the future is female! Men will be completely extinct and useless by 2046! First off - no. Secondly - what on earth do you think that is teaching our little boys? They are useless, "lesser than" and disposable.

Have you heard any of those lies? Have you heard them so often they are becoming normal or, even worse, truth? Is this really how we want to raise our little humans? That they are in competition with each other or that boys are a lesser being then girls?

Male and female, He created them (Genesis 1:27). As we raise our children we have to teach them a biblical understanding of gender. We must teach them to value every human being, every single human being. Paul showed us in Galatians 3:28 that we are all one in Christ Jesus and we must pass that message onto the next generation, a generation that will grow up with the most confusing messages about gender.

For many many years, we needed men to raise us up, to speak our worth and equal rights. We needed men to shut down certain rumours and myths and speak into the injustices against women. We needed them to do this because we didn't have a voice. Our voices were suppressed, ignored or seen as "lesser than". There are many cases and places that still require this of men but we have swung a little here, haven't we? We need strong women to stand up for strong integral men.

We have a challenge, we must elevate feminity without degrading masculinity. We must understand that God created us as equals. We have done a really poor job at understanding this in the past but we have an opportunity to help teach the future and the now.

So now every single morning I drop my Maverick off at school I give him a big hug, a kiss on the lips (the only way he will kiss) and I sent him off with our breakfast benediction that tells him this;

"I am not what I do, I am not what I have, I am not what people say about me. I a the beloved of God, it's who I am. No one can take it from me. I don't have to hurry, I don't have to worry. I can trust my friend Jesus and share His love with the world."

Little boys are precious because they will grow up to be Godly men who treat women as a priceless valuable gift from God and show the world what it means to be "male and female, He created them" and "it was VERY good"