Kid’s Love Languages
Do you know your kid’s love language?
Do you know that kids have love language?
Do you know the love languages?
It’s totally fine if your answer is no to all or any of those questions but here’s the thing - kid’s have love languages and knowing their language will help you parent better and love more.
So, what are kid’s love languages? Well, it’s pretty simple - kid’s are humans just like us so kid’s love languages are the exact same as ours. Here’s the quick and dirty.
Words of Affirmation: speaking kindly, lovingly and affirming to littles is so important but, to some, this is the most important. To hear mom and dad tell them how proud they are, how beautiful their art looks or how much they love them can be the be all to end all for some littles. Although most of us do this for our kids, knowing that this is one of your kid’s love language can help resolve some high emotions or behavioural issues.
Physical Touch: hugs, kisses, rubbing a back or being close. Physical touch seems to be the popular love language o some of our littlest littles but this can be just as important to our biggest ones too. Can a simple hug solve a tantrum? What about a hand on the back when they are fearful? Knowing this love language can help us use a simple skill to love on them better.
Gifts: I mean, isn’t this every kid’s language? Who doesn’t love a gift or a treat. If gifts is your kids love language it may feel overwhelming (and expensive) but the simplest and smallest things can make your little feel so loved. A surprise gift or a trip to the candy store can make this love language little feel the best. Sometimes we assume this language is the language of all our littles but, knowing this language may not be the one of your child can save you a lot of time and money.
Quality Time: this is a popular one (for obvious reasons) but knowing that this language may be the one for your little can really help you, as a parent, understand even more how important it is for your little to be with you. This doesn’t always have to be focused one on one but could simple be including them in your grocery run or some work could really make your little feel so loved and special.
Service: Making your kids bed is not spoiling them. Letting them have a little extra screen time instead of doing a chore is not the end o the world. Maybe, your littles special love language is service. Maybe when you do these simple things for your little they truly understand how deeply them are loved. Knowing this love language can maybe help you understand some o the pushback they give when we are constantly throwing “stuff” at them to do.
Maybe you read through that and know exactly what your kid’s language is or maybe you read through and thought all of those things are my kids. Here’s the things, for kids love languages have ebbs and flows but understanding your kids dominate language can be so helpful in your parenting. Why?
Well, imagine, if you assume your kid’s love language is words and during a meltdown you keep telling them it’s ok, they are loved and you are so proud that they tried '“that hard thing” when, in reality, their love language is touch and all they want is a hug. Or maybe, you assume your child’s language is gifts and you buy them treats here and there but really what they want is some quality time playing a game or going for a walk.
See what I am getting at here - knowing your kid’s love language can really be a game changer.
So, here’s what I need you to do.
Go take the free kid’s love language test here
Get the free pdf with examples for each language here.
Learning to love our kids by knowing who they are and meeting them where they are at - is there anything more like Jesus?